Thanks for not answering, learned a lot in the way....
here is the way to do it, be advised this is hard coding for the system so it may break on updates and such, always keep a change log for changes you make!!!
this is really simple, please , hika support, if this is not correct let me know.
you should edit this file: administrator/components/com_hikashop/classes/cart.php
just insert this code:
at line 198 just after this code:
function update($product_id,$quantity=1,$add=0,$type='product',$resetCartWhenUpdate=true,$force=false){
That worked for me, and now every time an item is added the cart will reset.