Email Notifications Questions! Business Version

Hey,

I looked for the answers but couldn't find them so here goes.

1) When a user just creates an order but does nothing else, I do NOT want them to get an email BUT I DO want ME to get a email, is this possible? and how?

2) I am using the "address_title" for something else (asking where someone found us).
The result of that is showing up in the emails, for example Google Jon Smith and then I have to remove it.
How do I stop that title section from showing in emails?

3) I want to edit that actual content of emails to customers with my own custom text, especially when I send them a change of status email from confirmed to shipping. I have looked and looked, where do I make this change and save it so everyone is getting the same email? Please tell me exactly, I can not find it!

4) It seems I am not getting correct emails any more! (I used to get them)
I want to get 2! order created, order completed/payment made.
Where can I check why I am suddenly not getting email notifications correctly?

5) I only want the customer to get an emails AFTER they complete and pay for an order. How?

6) When I go to "orders", in a row I see Order number, customer, payment method, date etc.
In the customer area, their email address is shown. I'd like to see their name, not their email, is this possible?

7) When a customer abandons an order after creating it and just leaves the site, is there a way for them to automatically get sent an email after a set amount of time? If so, how?

Sorry for the long list, that should be it.
Thanks so much